Friendships come and go.
In this man’s case, it seems his friendship has run its course since his friend is making him feel terrible about traveling solo to a dream location, when they had talking about possibly going together “someday”.
Now he is wondering if he should have waited for her.
Let’s analyze the situation.
I (25 years old, male) have been saving up for a 3-week trip to Japan for two years.
My friend Nina (26 years old, female) found out about my plans through social media where I was posting about my preparations.
He was excited about the trip, but his friend made it clear that she was not.
She immediately called me upset, saying she can’t believe I would plan this without her since we always talked about traveling together someday.
Here’s the thing – while we did casually mention traveling together, we never made concrete plans.
I specifically saved up for a solo trip because I want to experience traveling alone at least once in my life.
It’s his dream and his money, but she made him feel bad about it.
I also know Nina’s financial situation (she’s paying off student loans) and travel style (luxury hotels, structured tours) don’t match with what I planned (hostels, flexible schedule, budget travel).
Nina is now telling our friend group that I’m selfish and a terrible friend for ‘abandoning’ her and ‘breaking our promise.’
She says real friends would wait and go together or help pay for the other person.
Wow. That’s a lot to ask from a friend.
I don’t feel like I did anything wrong – I used my own money and time off for a personal goal.
AITA?
Making someone feel bad about fulfilling a dream is not what a good friend does, even if they are feeling left out.
Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this.
This reader has a suggestion.
A commenter shares their thoughts.
This person sounds baffled.
I agree.
Another reader chimes in.
This person thinks this is a toxic friendship.
That’s not how friendships work.
I hope he has a good trip!
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