The Unspoken Norm in Japan
an overwhelming portion of Japan’s population says paying for physical intimacy doesn’t count as cheating many view it as purely transactional and categorize it as stress relief especially in long-term relationships where desire fades but commitment doesn’t just satisfying an urge before it becomes a problem no drama no emotional attachment if you’ve seen those street interviews from Tokyo none of this will surprise you people casually admit they’d prefer their partner pay for it than fall in love with someone free shating isn’t what ruins relationships obsessing over someone who didn’t charge
Some boundaries in Japan might surprise you
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Would this be considered normal where you’re from?
Not true
Sorry Japan, it's still cheating.
I think cheating is giving that lovey-sexual part of yourself to someone else. So yeah, thats still cheating
based
Very insightful, but foul.
except if bet that if SHE paid for it, that would still be considered cheating. something tells me these rules are geared more toward the benefit of men.
I don't care either way as long as it's consensual
Correction: The male population of japan overwhelmingly says it doesnt count as cheating, but if a woman were to do it, then it's 100% cheating.
Yeah you could also just use your right hand you know…
I love Japan
Cheating is cheating
A lot of those who doesn't consider it are men who consider it cheating if women does it. But not them.
Personally I wouldn't do that. My love language is physical touch And spending time together. That is why I would feel betrayed and not feel like doing that. Ps not my place to judge others.
many of these so-called "street interview" videos are filmed late at night in places like Shinjuku and Shibuya, which are known for nightlife, entertainment, and adult services. These areas attract a very specific subset of the population and do not represent average Japanese citizens. Opinions collected from drunk passersby in red-light districts do not reflect national attitudes. It's like going to Amsterdam’s Red Light District and asking people about Dutch dating culture. Then taking those answers and saying, “This is how Dutch people think.”
What these videos often do is cherry-pick extreme or provocative responses to support a pre-set narrative. They avoid filming in normal residential neighborhoods, schools, or workplaces where more moderate and nuanced views are likely to be found. The reason is simple. Controversial and shocking clips get more views and attention. Balanced and thoughtful answers do not go viral. This type of content is not genuine cultural analysis. It is curated entertainment built to appeal to foreign audiences who already have certain stereotypes about Japan.
So… an open relationship then? Nothing new I guess.
I haven’t been to Japan, but jealousy and possessiveness are instinctive, betrayal is deception. I doubt most people truly think otherwise, even if some claim “the majority said so”
Cheating is cheating. There is no way around. If cheating is accepted in society, then personally we need to make a distinction.
Simple really.
1 or 0.
Its still cheating. Doesnt matter if you pay for it or not.
The Patriarchy knows no borders.
People in relationships get to determine the rules for their relationship
It is worse than cheating